I Want To Be A Housewife, A Homesteading Housewife

I want to be a housewife, a homesteading housewife

I want to be a housewife, a homesteading housewife to be exact.  Remember that woman back in the day?  The lady who woke up before her family to start the day before the sun came up, the one who stayed home full time cleaning her house, working the garden, making homemade meals for EVERY meal?  Yep, that’s who I want to be.

Now, realistically I am not far from being that woman, I really shouldn’t complain.  I work 20 hours a week teaching at a Christian preschool, and then get to come home and be that woman.  I get to start the housework, wash clothes, fold clothes, pick up the little ones from school, monitor chores, assist with homework, make sure the house pets are taken care of, take care of the small farm animals, tend to the gardens, and cook dinner from scratch.

I want to be a housewife, a homesteading housewife
potato and duck egg muffins with artichoke and bacon

But what am I missing, and why am I really complaining?  What’s the factor that prevents me from calling myself a housewife?  I was talking to my husband about this, and he smiles at me.  Apparently he knew the answer before I did,

“Honey, you do every bit that a housewife does AND more.  You may only work 20 hours outside of the house, but that’s 20 hours that you feel you are losing here.”  He nailed it, right. on. the. head. 

20 waking hours a week away from the homestead.  Can you imagine what I could be accomplishing if I had those 20 hours at home?  My house would be dusted weekly, the floors mopped on  a regular basis, wellness checks on the animals performed daily versed on the weekends.  I could learn to bake!  Forget that….I could learn how to crochet!  I can happily enjoy my first cup of coffee with the animals!

I want to be a housewife, a homesteading housewife

I’d be able to dedicate time to truly working on our website, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter account.  Quickly whipping out those blogs that you all ask for…sorry on that part, they generally get written between the plethora of other things happening here.

But the biggest, most important, most dedicated task that I would take on…homeschooling.  I’d love to give it a try and I know our kids would be very interested.  Not saying I could do it, but I’d love to see if we could work together and succeed.

I want to be a housewife, a homesteading housewife
I want to sit outside and talk to the animals when I want

I want to be a housewife.  I think about that lady back in the day and how she presented herself.  I imagine that I would like to, maybe, put on a little mascara and lip gloss ~ cause I just can’t seem to justify wearing a nice shade of a red lipstick if I am at home alone.  I am sure the animals will like it, but I think I’ll pass.  I’d have my hair styled and brush well, at least I’d quickly run my fingers through it.  I already, alright periodically, wear dresses and skirts and I don’t have a hesitation on wearing them when I am working in the garden or cleaning up poop.  I can’t seem to see myself wearing heels throughout the day, but I do own a mean pair of Slogger Chicken boots and clogs!

I want to be a housewife, a homesteading housewife

I want to be able to wear an apron from the moment I get dressed, to the moment I end my day.  Many eggs have been collected in my aprons, and many chicks received rides from their outside brooder on a nice day and then back to their inside brooder for the evening.  I have wiped dirt, tears, snot, and food on them.  I may have even dusted a piece of furniture or two with it.

I want to stomping in the woods with two amazing young farm kids right after school.  I want them to learn the importance of growing your own food and raising your own meat.  I not only want them to think their homesteaders, but I want them to learn how to live like one.

i want to be a housewife, a homesteading housewife

I want that dream, I want my 20 hours away from the house back.  I want to clean, cook, garden, take care of farm animals, wash clothes and hang them on my amazing laundry line, blog, work our social media sites, learn to crochet, and even learn to bake everyday ~ all day, every day.  I really want to be a full time housewife.  But for now, until I can get there, I will continue to be a modern day homesteader, blessed that I have the opportunity to live this life when many others dream of it.


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  1. Sandy says

    Just wondering what is keeping you from it. You children would really benefit from it. Yes, sacrifices may have to be made and that’s okay if you think that’s what is best for your children.

    • Farm Girl says

      The 20 hours I work are during the times our children are in school. I dropped them off and am there to pick them up. They are not with a sitter at all. Currently we have one in college, and just added a truck payment that we would like to pay off in 2 1/2 years. They do love their school and are thriving very well there, and in time I’d love to have things set up here where I can make some extra funds. Once that is in place I will be able to stay home.

  2. Jacqueline De Blonde says

    You hit it right in the head. I’m with you! I work roughly 10 hours a week outside the house and I’m hating it more and more. We also live in a small rural town and can. Not. Wait. To get onto the farm where my husband is every day! One day. But it can’t seem to come fast enough!

  3. Jayne Mcleod says

    I think you are a wonderful Wife, Mom, Homesteader and Teacher already … I enjoy reading about your life on the farm and I learn so much from the pictures and posts that you write … thank you for sharing ! Jayne (Canada)

  4. Irene Crisel says

    You’re doing a fantastic job. I’m proud of you and I know your family is too!
    One day at a time!! Farm Girl

  5. tammy says

    That’s a nice dream,and it sounds like you’ve set goals to make it happen. I’ve always been a house wife. Well almost always. I worked a very short time when my husband and I went to Bible college.
    I’ve always wanted to be a mama and housewife ever since I was a little girl.
    And we homeschool. We love it.

  6. Linda says

    Maybe it’s just me…I’m a full time,stay at home mum to three homeschooled kids. We aren’t homesteaders, only a 1/4 acre block with 10 chooks and an awesome veggie patch….but seriously, my house isn’t dusted weekly, my eldest kids job is to do the chickens food and shed every day, middle kids job is to put the clothes wash on when I ask him ( I hang it on the line and bring it in ), housework gets done once a week, deep clean twice a year. I cook three meals a day entirely from scratch. I have those extra 20hours a day and I’m still chasing my tail 🙂

    But I wish for you that you can get to be home the whole time. It rocks, even if I’m falling into bed each night grateful that my partner is happy to wash the dinner dishes every night so I can lay with the 5yo as he chats my ear off to sleep…wondering what exactly I did with the day!!

    • Mallory says

      This is what I was thinking the entire time I was reading this article Linda! Being on a farm doesn’t allow much spare time whether full time or part time. It’s literally a living breathing entity that relies on your care daily to work successfully. Homeschooling isn’t something I’ve experienced but I can’t imagine stacking such a heavy responsibility on top of the million others that come with homesteading! I hope this woman gets what she wants, but she should also know that being a housewife isn’t a title exclusive to those who stay at home full time and he’s doing a great job. And that that 20 extra hours won’t amount to much time just because she’s spending it at home.

      • Ann Accetta-Scott says

        Hi Mallory, I just wanted to respond quickly. My day starts at 5am and ends on average at 11pm. Realistically, if I had that extra 20 hours at home, I wouldn’t need to be awake at 11pm. That’s why 20 hours IS indeed important to our family. In regards to homeschooling, I know many homesteaders that homeschool and love it…a responsibility, very much so, but one worth the investment. I’m a housewife regardless if I work or not, what I dream is to one day be a full time housewife while living this homesteading life.

      • Alison French-Tubo says

        I was a full-time SAHM for 10 years and I did cook from scratch and keep up my garden a whole lot more then. But my days weren’t any shorter than they are now. Sounds like you are doing a great job of managing your time now BUT your list of added expectations for 22 hours is significant, so it seems to me you would get a lot more done but you wouldn’t be getting more sleep, lol.

  7. Heidi says

    Please make the jump as soon as possible! You have one in college, so you know how quickly time flies. We’re homeschooling the last 3 of 9 children…will be done in a couple of yrs. That’s a bittersweet thought. I don’t ever regret the decision to be home. It’s work. It’s sacrifice. It’s TOTALLY worth it.

  8. Amanda G says

    I am further away from that dream than you are presently but your description leads me to believe we may be kindred spirits 😉

    I long to wear an apron all day and whip up spectacular from-scratch down home meals! I even made an apron out of an old plaid dress I had. I prefer bare feet to heels and someday in the foreseeable future, I will be turning dreams into plans!

    Your post was just what I needed to read this morning (before I head off to my part-time gig)… Found ya via Pinterest and you now have a new reader! Thanks a heap!

    • Farm Girl says

      Don’t give up that dream! My goal is turn this homestead of our into a function brand, generating funds allowing for me to stay home. We have one in college, so currently me working is a requirement!

  9. Sarah says

    I am luck enough to be a stay at home farmer / wife/ mum. And there still isn’t enough time for all the projects I have buzzing around in my head !!

  10. Angela says

    Right. There. With. Ya! I work about 40 hrs./wk for State Governement. Sure, I would retire in my ealry 50’s, but my heart is not there. I’m 33, so the next few years are devoted to getting this life I want in order, to come home to the farm and start having those babies, or adopting those babies… God’s will. ♡

  11. Alisha says

    I’m pretty sure I have done it all… Worked more than full time… worked full time…..stayed home….and now I am working about 6-10 hours a week, at a horse stable. I love the job but I know exactly how you feel about loosing those hours towards the home life. the extent of our homestead is a small garden and we have thoughts and hopes for chickens in the near future!! we have been working weekends and some weeknights to get our 20 acres in the next town up and ready for us to take the plunge into the life we dream of!! and I CANNOT WAIT!!! we are also starting homeschooling in the fall with our four children! In the meantime I am learning patience……and learning as much as I can about as much as I can!! and maybe someday have something to say on my own blog!! maybe…. I am so excited I found your blog. keep doing you! wishing you and yours the best! GOD BLESS!

    • Farm Girl says

      Thank you so very much! You will do amazing in your journey because you have a wonderful dream!

  12. Laura says

    Sounds like a fond dream of mine. My son and I prefer Barefeet than shoes. And a tree lined entrance to a barn house is what I’d love the most. Spending all my time with my son and husband. Living a simple life. Homesteading, cooking together, eating, talking and studying our bibles by the camp fire outside.

  13. Whitney says

    So great to follow!! I’m too living the life without having to work(well I do work,at home). I’m a beginner farmer,just my chickens and garden right now, and a baby and 9 year old. Haha. Only thing I really ever wanted to do. I can’t wait to learn and explore, thanks for the tips! Blessed to be able to do this!

  14. Marissa says

    You just wrote down every dream that enters my mind!! I am a school teacher also—I teach Art and Algebra to High School kids who I do love (most of the time) but I am a young wife and momma of one in the process of adding to her family and leaving her and my home every day absolutely breaks my heart!! Now, I am blessed because I have summers and holidays off…but somehow that’s just not enough for me!! I would so much rather live a bit more frugally, make use of our property, and be an awesome housewife who homeschools her even more awesome kiddos!! It’s amazing how the plans you have at the beginning of your twenties can change SO DRASTICALLY by them time you’re in your late twenties!!

    • Ann Accetta-Scott says

      Just don’t lose hope of those dreams, cause honestly we have to work hard and we refuse to give up!

  15. sheila says

    I love this post.
    I lost my job in April and have been trying to do just this, minus the kids. My husband has been very supportive, thank the Lord and I have enjoyed it immensely.
    I think you should do it. Just think how it would nourish your soul.


  16. Becky says

    Holy Moly. You nailed it. I took work about 25 hours at a Christian preschool. My kiddos come with me. We’ve also just bought a home on 1 acre where I’m dreaming of creating a mini farm. ahhh… The struggle is real 🙂

    Thank you. I’m not sure how this post came into my life today. But, wow!Becky

  17. Fran Mirren says

    I’m working towards that as well. Although I consider myself “fortunate” in a way because, though I am disabled, I do receive an income which allows me to be at home. I have my physical limits, but I’m aware of them and I work around them, I have somehow found a way!

    What is holding me back from being that homesteading housewife is the actual homestead itself!! I live with my boyfriend and basically AM the housewife around here. I do all the home stuff: housework, meal planning, cooking, pet care and (because I’m apt) minor car maintenance. In the summer, I have a container garden (renting) and I preserve with a water bath canner, dehydrator or store stuff in the deep freezer.

    The plan is to eliminate (or greatly reduce realistically) debt by the end of 2018 (2 years left!!) and shop around for a mortgage and property at the beginning of 2019…move in the spring/summer of 2019.

    I’m 48 now, no kids, so I’ll be 50 when I start my homestead. I want to do the stuff I do now as a housewife and caretaker, but also have a large garden and some farm animals (chickens mainly and maybe some goats…we are debating horses). More dogs, we have 3 now and 3 cats…and I’m sure a few mice that I don’t know about lol!

    This is my dream. Thank you for sharing yours (that I do envy so much right now – except the 20 hours away from home!!); and I hope that you can find a way to be at home permanently, and also homeschool. I have a friend who is in the same position as you, though they have foster kids and that is the basis of their income. They have adopted and she really wants to homeschool. She is working towards that as well, though she already has the homestead and the farm going.

    Anything can be done in our lives if we have the motivation, drive and common sense to do it. Sometimes there are curves along the path, but the path always leads us to where we want to be.

  18. Roxann says

    I am 44 years old. I too have a small homestead. We have 4 children, the youngest is 12, and older 3 are grown. I worked away from home 24 hours a week, plus volunteer fire department and volunteer ambulance service so kinda of on call 24/7. I loved each job separately, but realised I was impatient and ugly around the house because I didn’t have time to deal with people when I had the homestead to take care of too, and the cooking, cleaning, baking and making also, which I was learning that I LOVED. That was where my heart was. One day I came home from my 24 hour job and told my husband (of 24 years) that I had quit.? He just said o.k. I just walked away from everything and didn’t look back. I am a full time homesteader and housewife who first responds with the fire department when needed. I am often called Ma Ingle, and I have never been happier. I mean that ‘I feel a little guilty for being this happy’ happy. Follow your dream my friend because it doesn’t get much better than this.

  19. Jessica says

    Girl, you are speaking my language…well, dialect. My littles are grown but 2 out of 3 still live at home. We also moved in my MIL so I still have a house full that I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to stay home and take care of! I currently work 40 hrs a week outside of the home and about an hour away. I am determined to get down to no more than 20 hours a week so I can live my dream of a housewife. That dream will have to wait a few years, until bills get paid off. Then I will be home with my family, my animals, and my house…

  20. Barb says

    Ann we are so similar it’s scary. Lol! I wanted to be a housewife too! And now I finally am. I love being home to make my hubby’s meals and visit with family and friends. Putter in the garden and having canning days in the summer and fall. Time to work on my blog and read for pleasure. One day you’ll have it and hey, maybe I’ll come down and we’ll meet for coffee and I’ll teach you how to crochet. Lol This is a great post!

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